I’m appalled and touched 😶 by my coaching clients who have been struggling in the quicksand of self-worth these past few months. Like Catherine (not her real name) who is told, behind closed doors on a call with HR, that she should be less sensitive and whiny when she is given feedback, and that she is too direct too. So shocked by this feedback, the words fail her, and she can hardly breathe. Yes, tears come to her eyes. Of rage. But she does everything right, even better than most of her colleagues. She sees it, she knows it. She makes it a point of honor to deliver clean files. Never late, never bullshit. Worries about the team members and their workload. Takes it upon herself to provide that extra mile. Attends meetings, defends her team’s work. Takes missiles to the gut from colleagues who don’t deliver their share. And that makes her angry. Fights for what she believes is right. Used to fight. Except now she’s really exhausted. She wants to send everything to **** . But hates herself for not having the courage to do it. She’s a loser, really. That’s her real identity: lame. “It’s not Life Work Brilliance, Dominique, it’s hell! Does this experience of Catherine’s speak to you? Are you there? Then you should know that there are solutions. You just don’t know what they are yet. With a little knowledge and strategy, you can escape the quicksand trap where the more you struggle, the more you suffocate. Believe me, many, many women have been there. We’ve learned and tried tips and found our recipes for a ⭐Life Work Brilliance⭐. You can too and without sacrificing everything. It’s up to you to dare to take the plunge and talk to a coach, me or someone else, it doesn’t matter, to find out what would be possible.
“This is not a Life Work Brilliance, Dominique, this is hell!”