{"id":13056,"date":"2025-12-16T07:16:35","date_gmt":"2025-12-16T06:16:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dominique-ara.com\/?p=13056"},"modified":"2025-12-02T07:16:35","modified_gmt":"2025-12-02T06:16:35","slug":"etre-enendue-sans-sexcuser","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominique-ara.com\/en\/blog\/etre-enendue-sans-sexcuser\/","title":{"rendered":"Being heard without apologizing for existing"},"content":{"rendered":"

As a coach, I often hear the same question from my clients:<\/p>\n

“How can I influence my male colleagues without having to speak louder than them?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

“How do I respond when someone explains my own topic in a meeting?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Behind it all, there’s always the same desire: to be listened to, respected and taken seriously, without turning into someone they don’t recognize.<\/p>\n

For me, influencing in the feminine is not about manipulating or crushing.
\nIt’s about creating movement in others while remaining aligned with yourself.<\/p>\n

When Camille disappears at a meeting<\/h2>\n

Camille is a manager in an all-male team. In a coaching session, she confides in me: <\/p>\n

“In a meeting, I throw out an idea and no one reacts.
\nTen minutes later, a colleague says almost the same thing, and then everyone thinks it’s great.
\nI leave frustrated, tired… and angry with myself for not having said anything.”<\/p>\n

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He also sometimes experiences mansplaining:<\/p>\n

“They explain my own subject to me, as if I were a trainee.”<\/p>\n

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Nothing “spectacular”, never “serious enough” to cause a scandal… but repetitive enough to dent his confidence.<\/p>\n

With Camille, we didn’t work on making her “tougher” or more masculine! No: I trained Camille to influence in a different way, in these very concrete situations. <\/p>\n

1. Clarify your intention to influence<\/h2>\n

I often start with this question:<\/p>\n

“What do you really want to achieve in these meetings?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Camille wanted :<\/p>\n